The Moment Change Stops Feeling Like Effort
- Mar 30
- 3 min read
For years, my relationship with food moved in cycles.
Moments of discipline. Moments of letting go.
At some point, I knew I needed to redesign the whole system in order for it to work for me.
I removed gluten. Shifted to two meals a day. And I changed the order of how I eat inspired by what I learned from Jessie Inchauspé, the Glucose Goddess. Starting with vegetables, continuing with protein and vegetables again, then carbohydrates, and finally sugar.
In six months: better sleep, more stable energy. In nine months: I lost almost 10 kilos. My focus sharpened. My professional performance increased.
And something else changed.
The battle disappeared.
For the first time, it didn’t feel like I was trying anymore. It felt like something was finally working with me.
And that part took time.
Months to trust it. Close to two years to fully live it.
Problem: Change That Moves Faster Than It Settles
For many professionals, changes are introduced quickly.
New habits. New structures. New decisions.
Before one shift stabilizes, another one is already added.
So, the system never fully reorganizes.
I often see a similar pattern in professional life.
New roles. Expanded responsibilities. Shifting expectations.
The external change happens quickly. The internal system takes its time. And in that gap, people start to feel demotivated, frustrated.
Solution: Giving Change the Conditions to Stay
Instead of adding more, we need to shift our focus to allowing patterns to form.
Allowing the change to repeat. To stabilize. To show its full effect over time.
Letting the system respond until the new way begins to feel natural.
That’s where things start to hold.
From a neuroscience perspective, experts like Andrew Huberman explain that sustainable change follows stages and requires alignment between behaviour, biology, and environment.
When energy stabilizes and patterns repeat, the brain begins to recognize the behavior as safe and efficient to maintain.
CLICK HERE to find an important conversation with Lori Gottlieb and Andrew Huberman on how behavior change actually works.
What I observe in professionals who integrate change effectively are:
💎 Instead of evaluating too early, they allow the process to unfold to give change enough time to reveal its real effect
💎 They adjust the system until it reduces friction
💎 They look for stability, as well as improvements
If you’re feeling such a gap between the start and the activation of your change process, you are not alone.
Maybe what you need right now is not more data or information, but a space where what is already changing in your life can take shape.
Where clarity is gradually built and not forced.
Over the next 3 months I’m opening that space in my coaching program: CAREER CLARITY PROJECT and you are invited.
To a place to work through change in a way that can actually stay.
If this resonates, feel free to BOOK A FREE 30-MIN CALL
Warmly,
Dilek
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